So I went to last night's support group and it was pretty interesting. The first group at 6:00 is for people who are at least 8 months post-op and the second group is for pre-op and recent post-ops. During the first meeting we were talking about Thanksgiving so I asked for people's advice about what to eat and how to not make a big deal about it as I will be having dinner at my brother's house. One woman asked me if my family knows that I've had surgery and I told her just my sister. She went to say that I should just tell everyone and put it out there, that's what she did. I told her that it's a personal decision and for me I just don't feel the need to advertise to my family and others that I've had surgery. I don't want to answer 100 questions about the surgery and I also don't need anyone else's unrealistic expectations as to how much weight I should be losing. I give this woman a lot of credit for being so open but it's just not where I am right now.
When your time comes, if it hasn't already, really think about who you want to share this information with. Some of you may decide to tell all of your family, friends, and co-workers, and some of you may do as I have and just share it with a very few close people in your life. There is no right or wrong way here, just what makes you feel comfortable!
Have a healthy day!!!
Jenn
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I also choose not to share with everyone. It is getting harder to hide as I have lost over 100 lbs in less than a year, So when people ask me what I have done I just say I have changed my lifestyle. I am always afraid someone will feel that I took the easy way out if I tell them I had the surgery, I know that I had to do the surgery or I might not be here today, This was not easy . I worked hard for every pound I have lost, I just needed that extra tool to help me. People who have not had the surgery might not understand and I just do not want to explain myself. You have to do what works for you, and if not telling people is what works for you then stick with it, Some day you may or may not want to share, all that matters is that you are healthy and happy,,,, Have a Happy and Healthy Holiday...
All my support. Kim
Thanks for your support Kim! I do think it's a personal decision to share with people. There are a few people in my life who I have confided in but I just don't feel the need to tell everyone. As I'm sure you know, everyone has an opinion and there are people who feel that surgery is the easy way out. This is the hardest thing I've ever done and I'm sure you feel the same way. Congrats on the weightloss and may you have continued success!!! Hope your Thanksgiving is a happy and healthy as well! Jenn
I did choose to share with my whole family just because we are a tight knit family that is always in everyone's business.
I wrote them a huge email and was very honest about how hesitant I was to share, but I decided to anyway.
I also shared in the email that the best way to support me is to just let me be, let me make my own decisions about food and what I choose to eat and not to question those choices. I let them know that I don't need anyone to be the food police for me. The band will do that just fine.
So far it's been a good experience, but I agree that it will not be the right choice for everyone.
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